Science Says These Are The Five Most Annoying Speaking Habits

When it comes to annoying speaking habits, it is not about what you say a lot of the time but the timing of your words and the mood at the moment. Here are five of the most annoying speaking habits according to researchers.
You’re A Pessimist
Pessimism is a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect to be disliked when meeting people, research shows you will probably project cold negativity and prove yourself right. On the other hand, social optimism, works pretty much the same way.
People who expect other people to like them will enter into conversation more positively and, often, leave the other person feeling the same way.
This doesn’t mean you need to suppress your emotions all day, but consider that happiness and sadness are contagious and the mood you give off will come back to you.
You Dominate Conversations
You don’t need experts to explain that getting a few things off your chest feels good but you might be shocked to know how good it can be.
Talking about ourselves whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money.
If you are depriving your friend of the joys of talking about themselves, it could be annoying to them. Don’t be a conversational narcissist suspend your ego and enjoy more social interaction.
You Correct People Too Often
experts say a key tool in establishing rapport with someone is suspending your ego, or simply putting the other person’s desire to speak and be heard above your own.
This can be as easy as not interrupting someone, not correcting her facts or grammar, and letting her know you’re listening, not judging. Individuals who allow others to continue talking without taking their own turn are generally regarded as the best conversationalists.
Such individuals are also sought after when friends or family need someone to listen without judgment. They are the best at building quick and lasting rapport.
You Say “you” Instead Of “we”
Chances are, if the pronoun you use most often in conversation is “you,” the person on the receiving end either feels bossed around, judged, or otherwise accused. On the other hand, couples who favour words that foster togetherness (“we,” “us”) instead to separateness (“I,” “you”) are proven to be happier, healthier, and more satisfied with their relationships.
You End Statements Like Questions
Uptalk or “upspeak” is the speech pattern of ending a declarative sentence with the rising intonation of a question. In one study of 700 male and female executives, 85 percent viewed uptalk as an indicator of insecurity, 70 percent found it annoying, and 57 percent believed a person’s career could be hindered by it.
The bias against uptalkers is undeniable, but easily countered: to sound more confident and authoritative, practice lowering your tone at the end of key sentences.
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